About two years ago I had a very touching experience. I had retired from my counseling practice of 30 years. I was part of a group of 10 wonderful therapists who were good friends as well as colleagues. Once a year we went on a retreat to a beautiful place and enjoyed good music, delicious food, and each other’s company.
Two years ago was my last retreat, and we went to the coast of northern California because I couldn’t handle the high elevation of the Lake Tahoe mountains. They allowed me to choose the menu and each of them chose a song to dedicate to me.
After a delicious dinner we all sat down together, and each person played a song that reminded them of me or was intended to encourage me. I was overwhelmed with many emotions and grateful for all the love and support and grieving for having to leave this wonderful group because of pulmonary fibrosis.
My disease had progressed to the point that my portable oxygen concentrator could not accommodate my oxygen needs — 6 lpm, sitting, and 8 lpm, walking. I was so sad to have to retire due to my disease. I loved being a therapist. I felt like my career and ability to bring hope and healing to others was over. I was racked with grief.
Touched by a song
Each and every song touched me, but one particularly stood out: “Fight Song,” by Rachel Platten.
Its lyrics include the following:
“This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m all right song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me.”
After we had listened to the song, my friend Ken said to me, “It’s not over yet.” I said, “It’s not over yet?” He said, “No, it’s not over yet.”
It really touched my heart deeply, because I had felt like it was over. I’d retired from my counseling practice, and I had finished teaching a master’s level therapist course for a local graduate school. I LOVED what I did, and I was good at it.
Still able to have an impact
Those lyrics and Ken’s words sparked some life inside of me and started a transformation. I thought that maybe I could still have an impact on others but in a different way. I had a book coming out a few months after the retreat. I started a blog about how to be a compassionate friend to yourself as you walk through the ups and downs of life. I did some speaking engagements and book release parties while sitting down and using supplemental oxygen. It was a challenge to make it all work, but it did work. It felt so good to be still able to use my gifts, albeit in a very different way.
Six months after the retreat I was contacted by Pulmonary Fibrosis News and asked to write this column. I’ve been doing this for a year and a half, and I feel blessed to be able to have a positive influence on fellow patients and caregivers. It is a pleasure to write this column, and I am grateful to do so.
I had a second book come out six months ago, and I’ve continued writing my blog, Self-Compassion for Real Life. Although I can no longer do public speaking, I have so many things I want to accomplish with the time I have left. I’ve completed a lot of personal projects around the house, with a lot more to go. Everything takes 10 times longer than it used to, but I just keep going.
One experience that I’m sure we share is having to say goodbye to careers, hobbies, and activities we love. You’ve probably felt discouraged at times by the feeling that your life is over. If this is true for you, I encourage you to rethink your conclusion. The truth is, right now, there is life to live. Use the moments you’ve been given in whatever ways are meaningful to you, and express who you are. You are still you.
We are all different
Search your heart to discover how you’d like to spend the precious time you have left to live.
What activities that bring you joy can you still do, maybe in a different way?
Who do you want to influence with your love and wisdom?
What do you want to do for fun?
What projects do you want to complete?
How can you live the life you have now to the fullest?
I’d love to hear from you
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