We Must Keep Living Our Best Lives, Whatever Comes Our Way

How does a person with a chronic, progressive lung disease of unknown origin live their best life? How do they continue to live their best life in a pandemic?
In the days immediately following my diagnosis in January 2017, I made a couple key decisions about my relationship with idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis. I was going to be very open about my diagnosis. I elected to tell our immediate family in phone calls. Our friends and colleagues were told in a letter.
While my wife, Susan, and I explained the diagnosis I had received, we declared it would not be me asking, “Why me?” I was committed to being the happiest sick person anyone had ever met.
Filling the bucket list
I began thinking of the many things remaining on our bucket list. The trips we had not yet taken. The places we had not yet visited. The people we had not yet met. The grandchildren we had not yet met.
There were so many “not yets.” In consultation with my care team, we quickly determined that pursuing our bucket list was a go. I was fortunate in my professional and personal life to have traveled to six of the seven continents. Susan and I discovered we could cruise to the interior of Antarctica. Make that seven of seven!
We continue to live our best life. In my case, with Susan by my side, the life events I was not sure I would be a part of after my diagnosis have continued to happen in front of me. In 2018, my daughter got married, and I walked her down the aisle. We also held our first grandchild on the very day she was born.
Following my transplant last July, as my care team brought me up from anesthesia and was preparing to extubate me, I heard Susan ask me if I was ready to breathe. I was!
Adapting to change
I see so many in the PF and larger rare disease communities pushing their boundaries to live their best lives. We adapt. When I first started using supplemental oxygen, I carried portable “C” size tanks over my shoulder or in a backpack. As my need for oxygen increased, I pulled an “E” tank behind me.
Now, the COVID-19 pandemic means that members of the immunocompromised community have to find new ways to live their best lives in this world. We had to learn to pivot, to change our daily routines even more to stay safe and avoid becoming a prisoner of the pandemic.
Businesses and advocacy organizations also had to pivot because of the pandemic. The Pulmonary Fibrosis Foundation’s biannual summit last year was originally planned as an in-person event, but switched to virtual. One of the support groups I work with was looking for an alternative for their members who were unable to find exercise programs that met their abilities. I reached out to Studio Z Yoga, led by Melissa Turner, who is certified in trauma sensitive yoga. She had already switched to virtual classes, and made them available to those with different levels. These kinds of moves allow organizations to reach a broader audience.
Making every breath count
No one can predict when this pandemic will end and the world will be able to return to normal — either the old normal or a new one. In the meantime, we must all live our best life and be a part of the life events unfolding right in front of us.
The protections offered by vaccines, masks, and social distancing are some of the tools we can rely on. At the same time, we should continue to stay plugged into the wider world and participate virtually in the things that interest us. Staying plugged in is one way to ensure we make every breath count.
I would love to hear how others are living their best life right now. Please share in the comments below.
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Richard Poulin
Thank you for this uplifting and motivating post. There is a process to reach this point, but once you do you are able to continue living a rich life filled with memories and experiences.
Samuel Kirton
Richard
Thanks for reading the column and your kind comments. You are absolutely correct that it is an evolving process, and it is been absolutely worth it to me.
Sam ...
John Gould
I thank you so, so much for your column, it is great. I have iPF like you had.
We live in Portland Oregon. I work full time as CPA and Atty, I work for myself so I have no backup when I'm gone on vacation or when we will have to live in Seattle for 3-6 months for the transplant and recovery. I plan to go back to work after the transplant, so I am figuring out how to work with my clients and their files while in Seattle and they all are in Portland.
I am 69 and going to be listed after our current trip to visit our daughter, Natalie, son in law Michael, 5 yr old granddaughter, Amelia and 6 month old grandson, Lincoln who live in Pennsylvania. We have a 2nd home there for when we visit also. Likely, we won't be back here again for 3-4 years when Amelia is 8-9 and Lincoln is 5-6 - that breaks my heart. We had bern coming out 3 times a year - 2 weeks in May, 6-7 weeks in Aug-Sept, and 2 weeks at Christmas, which has to stop as soon as I'm waitlisted.
Our son, Gregory and daughter in law, Taryn live in Idaho - near Coeur d'Alene - no grandkids from them yet.
Looks like your transplant center was at the Univ of Pittsburgh Medical Center. They also live too far from my transplant center in Seattle at the Univ of Wash Medical Center, to visit them our kids. I thank God we live in Portland 3.0-3.5 hours away from Seattle so we don't have to move. When up in the Seattle VA Hospital staying 10 days for my last bunch of stuff needed for pre transplants, I met a guy and his wife and they were from Puerto Rico and they had to move into the long term stay 2 bedroom unit, they had been living there for 16 months on the waitlist for lungs - O blood type, same as me..
I am a Vietnam vet and my Drs are at the Portland Veteran's hospital, U of W usually cuts off at age 65 for transplants, however for Vets the allow age 70 to apply, thank God. My wife and U are devout. Christians.
I would love to email you from time to time, can you email me your email address?
Thanks
John
Samuel Kirton
Hi John
Thanks for reading my columns and your comments. If you prefer to reach in a private message can I suggest you send me a connection request in the Forums section of Pulmonary Fibrosis News? Once connected you can send me private messages there. By the way, I was transplanted at Iniva Fairfax in the Virginia suburbs just outside of DC.
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