Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas: Oh, the holiday stress
How I've learned to cope with the season while living with pulmonary fibrosis
The pulmonary fibrosis (PF) community is not a stranger to stress. Regardless of your role, whether as a patient, caregiver, or transplant recipient, you’ve likely experienced it. The stress could be white coat syndrome or come from a test, procedure, or the many unknowns associated with living with PF.
Another stressor for many in the PF community is the approach of the holiday season. With Halloween a week away, the holiday advertisements and marketing are already upon us. It’s a little more than four weeks until Thanksgiving here in the United States and just over eight weeks until Christmas. These bring a different kind of stress, though.
Following my diagnosis of idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis in January 2017, the holidays were only a couple of weeks behind us. During those first months of the year, my disease progression was becoming noticeable to my colleagues. I stopped working in September 2017, when I wasn’t able to continue effectively in my chosen profession.
Historically, my wife, Susan, and I had hosted epic celebrations of Halloween, family gatherings for Thanksgiving, and quiet celebrations around Christmas. In 2017, those events seemed to continue as normal.
Susan, who was also my caregiver, reminded me not to overdo it at each event. I did notice then that I was tiring more easily, and I had to pay attention to what my body was telling me.
Traveling for other family holidays, especially after I began using oxygen, required much more planning to ensure the trips were not marred by stress. My checklist included concerns like how many oxygen tanks I’d need. Would I need to arrange for an oxygen concentrator to be delivered to wherever I was going or could I take my home concentrator with me? Did I need a spare for any component, such as the washer used to seal my oxygen tank regulator or even a spare regulator?
When I received my bilateral lung transplant in July 2021, I no longer needed to be concerned about my oxygen requirements. I exchanged that stressor for my need to keep track of where the closest care facility was that had experience managing patients with a solid organ transplant.
Keeping stress at bay
Have you experienced any of these stressors? If you have, you know they can’t be simply willed away. But I’ve found that by recognizing the stress and planning for it, I’ve been able to deal with it. I’d like to share some of the tips I’ve learned on my journey that have helped me with stressful situations, especially around the holidays.
Would I be hosting a gathering or would Susan and I be traveling to an event? Let me start with what I see as the easier of the two. If we were hosting, we’d have everything we needed at home. What I had to do was know my limitations and respect them; when I’d become tired, I needed to make time to rest.
When I had to travel for a holiday, the same rules about listening to my body applied. The first decision was how to travel: plane, train, or automobile. Plane travel wasn’t possible for me from late 2019 until I got my new lungs because of my oxygen requirements pre-transplant. If you can travel by plane, each airline has its own process to authorize the use of an oxygen concentrator during flight.
Travel by train or automobile was possible later, when I could carry oxygen equipment with me. Amtrak, for instance, let me travel with oxygen tanks. By car, I was only limited by the tanks I had on hand and my ability to load my home concentrator into the car.
I developed a system for traveling with oxygen by preparing a “go bag” while packing for a trip. I created a kit with replacement washers, oxygen tubing, cannulas, and a regulator. I got the idea from a session at the 2019 Pulmonary Fibrosis Foundation Summit, which taught participants how to prepare for an evacuation in the event of a disaster. I learned what I needed to build the kit.
In my post-transplant world, I find the PFF Care Center Network locations I’ll be near on any trip. I make a quick reference file on my phone to ensure the address is immediately available.
Begin planning for the holidays now. I hope you’ve found something useful here that will also help you make every breath count.
Do you have tips for dealing with holiday stress? Please share them in the comments below.
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