Managing Stress As a Patient with PF: A Collective Response
One of my favorite courses when preparing for a career in trauma, mental health, and children’s counseling was my training in narrative therapy. This type of therapy is less traditional than other well-known methods such as cognitive, behavioral, or psychodynamic therapies. Despite this, I have seen it work in practice many times, especially with young children. The focus of narrative therapy is on storytelling and separating the person from the problem, which then empowers clients to be in a better headspace to find a solution to whatever they are seeking therapy for.
An aspect of narrative therapy I enjoy working with most is called collective documents. As described by the Dulwich Centre, an international leader in narrative therapy based in Australia, collective documents richly describe the skills and knowledge of how groups, individuals, or communities are sustained during difficult times.
As a patient living with idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (IPF), I am particularly interested in hearing from others about how they cope or manage their lives with IPF. The knowledge, skills, and ideas they bring as fellow patients far exceed what medical professionals advise, especially when it comes to living daily with this chronic lung condition.
I was lucky enough to study at the Dulwich Centre in 2015 and 2016, and while there, I learned a lot about the importance of collective documents. I was able to see clients respond positively to information shared by others facing a similar problem. They felt empowered and strengthened by fellow clients. This is why I find it so beneficial to reach out to other patients living with IPF when I struggle with a problem I’m not sure how to cope with. I would like to start being more intentional about creating collective documents about living with IPF, as I love the idea of creating something from the PF patient and for the PF patient.
Last week, I had a particularly bad Monday at work and ended up getting so upset about what happened that I made myself sick. In hindsight, I certainly didn’t need to get myself so upset, but it’s hard to see that in the moment, when everything feels awful.
My usual stress-relief strategies were ineffective, so I reached out to the Pulmonary Fibrosis News Forum community and asked how they deal with stress. As usual, these wonderful members were willing to share their methods for dealing with bad days as a result of IPF. I thought I’d share them with you, in hopes that this collective document, which is a work in progress, might help you during stressful times. Here are some of the ways other patients with IPF manage stress:
- Give yourself permission to feel: It is important to allow ourselves to experience the full range of emotions that come with IPF, even if it’s in the form of a “pity party.” The key piece with this is ensuring we don’t get stuck in the negative emotions of living with IPF long term and have effective coping strategies to help us move past dark days.
- Remember how loved you are: I was thankful this piece of advice was shared with me from a member of our forums. We are always trying our best to live with IPF, and it’s important to remember that we’re loved by others, even during our toughest moments. Whether that love comes from online friendships, family members, or spouses, etc., it is important to remember that someone out there loves you.
- Engage in a mindless or therapeutic activity: Examples include crafting, puzzles, drawing, or painting. When engaging in any of these, our minds are fully focused on the task at hand, leaving little room to think about IPF and the effect it has on our lives. Personally, I love crafting, as it gives me somewhere else to focus my energy.
- Connect with others: I understand that it is easy to feel vulnerable with IPF, and sometimes in that vulnerability, we don’t want to be around others. Handpick a small group of friends to be your “circle of support” and lean on them during tough times. I am so thankful for my friends who can see me at my worst and still love me despite it.
- Distractions: I fear the day I will no longer be able to drive, as I often put my dog in the car and hit the road to help clear my mind. Other examples of distractions from IPF include spending time with friends and family or watching a movie.
How do you effectively deal with stress as a PF/IPF patient?
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