Life With Chronic Illness Brings Both Highs and Lows
Throughout their lives, many people experience an array of ups and downs. Days, months, or even years can be plagued with challenges that seem unfair.
Conversely, people also can experience prolonged periods when things go well.
Rare disease patients who frequently experience ups and downs caused by their illness know that life isn’t linear.
Since my diagnosis of idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (IPF) in 2016, many significant things have happened in my life that are both good and bad. Many were memorable experiences that changed my life narrative. Examples include job loss due to identifying as having a disability, relationship breakdowns, and on the flip side, a more meaningful career, new relationships, and frequent travel opportunities.
In the moment, it can be hard to see past difficulties or hope that things will get better. I hate hearing common statements like, “You have to stay positive,” or, “Things will get better.”
To an extent, these comments are generally true: Life usually ebbs and flows for all of us. But what about those of us living with a debilitating lung disease like IPF? Toxic positivity can be dangerous for rare disease patients, despite people’s best intentions.
Believe me when I say that it’s easy to be consumed by the negative when living with IPF, whether it involves depression, grief, sadness, or anger. Patients experience a range of emotions when navigating a chronic illness, and it’s hard to feel like things will ever improve.
While our disease won’t improve because IPF is progressive, some aspects of our illness will ebb and flow. In this column, I want to highlight the various ups and downs that rare disease patients often experience.
If you are a fellow patient stuck in what feels like a long and difficult period, I hope this column helps you to remember that life with a chronic illness isn’t linear, and things will get better.
Emotional ups and downs
It seems impossible to write about all of these because there are so many. Sometimes I get stuck in a downward spiral of feeling sorry for myself because I have a life-threatening lung disease as a young adult, and I become overly emotional. I grieve the physical abilities I’ve lost, especially my ability to play sports and remain active.
The emotional aspects of having a chronic illness are often overwhelming, but it’s important to reframe your experiences. For example, I struggle with no longer being part of a sports team, but I’ve since become a member of other teams that are hobby-based and less physically demanding.
Physical ups and downs
Lung disease is one of the more physically debilitating chronic illnesses. You need to be able to breathe to do anything, so it’s easy for an IPF patient to feel down due to the fatigue or the dyspnea we experience regularly. Patients also must factor in illnesses, since many of us are immunocompromised, and the recovery that follows prolonged hospitalizations or illness.
When I am physically well, I sometimes forget about IPF and can cope. Other times, when I am struggling with all of the symptoms of this cruel lung disease, it feels like I’ll never emerge from the difficulties and experience normal life again. I yearn for the days I feel well and never take them for granted.
Social ups and downs
Sometimes my friends understand my limited abilities due to IPF, and sometimes they don’t. However, the hardest social aspect of having this disease is telling new friends, colleagues, or relationship partners about it.
Knowing I have to tell someone new that I have IPF feels like a weight hanging from my shoulders. I often feel down about the fact that peers my age don’t have to disclose a serious illness when they meet someone new. When thinking about reframing this, I try to remember all of the new friends and social opportunities I’ve had as a result of my illness.
Televangelist Robert Schuller once said, “Tough times don’t last; tough people do.” This applies to the ebb and flow of life. It’s important that everyone, including those with a chronic illness like IPF, remember that life is not a linear journey, and experiencing ups and downs is normal.
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