IPF Didn’t Change My Identity
The word “identity,” which refers to a person’s “distinguishing character or personality,” according to Merriam-Webster, may sound simple to understand, but it’s actually often confused with other terms.
Before you read any further, take a moment to think about your own identity. When you have a description in mind, please read on.
Many of us may confuse our roles, professions, or hobbies with our identity. Husband, father, brother, patient, and caregiver are examples of roles, while professions may include doctor, flight attendant, teacher, or plumber, for example. Hobbies are typically things you enjoy doing. A person may be a coin collector, painter, quilter, or scrapbooker.
At times, roles, professions, and hobbies can overlap, depending on your perspective. While being a doctor is a profession, a patient may view it as a role. Someone who paints as a hobby may be good enough to become a professional artist.
What is your identity?
What words describe your distinguishing character or personality? Ethics? Attitude? Morals? What is one word that different people in your life use to describe you?
This word likely depends on the person’s relationship with you. A professional colleague may describe you according to your ethics or morals. For example, they might say you’re honest, hardworking, or someone with integrity. A lifelong friend might describe you as genuine, positive, and caring.
IPF and my identity
Idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (IPF) changed many parts of my life. I served in the U.S. Air Force for 22 years as a special agent with the Office of Special Investigations. After retiring, I spent another 20 years leading related programs for government contractors. Those jobs were my professions. When I stopped working and went on disability benefits, it was the first time in my adult life I didn’t have an answer to the question “So what do you do?”
Thanks to IPF, I gained a new role: patient. While it’s not a paid position or a role I sought out, it became one of the most immediate and demanding roles of my life. But I also grew in my other roles after my diagnosis. I held my first grandchild on the day she was born, and walked my daughter down the aisle on her wedding day.
As for hobbies, I still enjoy amateur radio, reading, and cooking. As I mentioned in a recent column, I have even picked up some new skills, including becoming a licensed drone pilot. I think my hobbies might be described as diversions — opportunities to focus on something unrelated to IPF.
My identity is intact
My identity did not change due to IPF. My identity is composed of my guiding principles, the foundations of which are ethics, attitude, and morals. These guideposts are generally developed early in our life.
IPF couldn’t take away these elements of my identity. They continue to guide me on my journey. My identity fuels my passion for raising awareness and advocating for the IPF community. It’s why I share my story with you, intending to help you find that one element that helps you on your journey.
I maintain a positive attitude, search for the good in others, strive to treat everyone I encounter with dignity and respect, and keep my sense of humor intact (though not everyone appreciates a good pun). I continue to make every breath count.
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