Coping with Diagnosis Anniversaries
April 7, 2016, is a date that will be etched in my memory for a very long time. It is the date of my idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (IPF) diagnosis, which followed nine long months of fatigue, shortness of breath, and a dry cough that never seemed to subside.
Until that date, it never occurred to me that I could have a lung disease at the young age of 28, especially since I was active, otherwise healthy, and never smoked. It was a day that I learned about a new disease, one that would impact my life in many ways for the remaining years I had to live, with an average life expectancy is three to five years. That diagnosis was two years ago.
This morning, I wasn’t sure how to pass the day. I didn’t have any plans, especially since I have been fighting off yet another virus secondary to being immunocompromised from the medications I am on due to IPF. Whatever I chose to do, I knew I wanted to be gentle with myself and process any emotions. Now that the day is drawing to a close, I cannot say the day was productive, as I did not cross off any tasks from my to-do list. Nor was today emotional, or filled with thoughts about this day two years ago like I thought it would be. In a way, I barely felt anything today. And every time I tried to put into words what I was thinking, either on paper or via social media, I stopped and chose not to write anything.
Many times today, I skimmed Google Images to find a quote that would resonate with how I was feeling. I looked for quotes focusing on gratitude, on living life to the fullest, on looking ahead to the future, and on coping. None of the quotes stood out for me, and I erased what I wanted to post multiple times. Everything felt too clichéd.
I am grateful to have survived two years with this disease, and for the opportunities, friendships, and support that I have witnessed as a result of my diagnosis. Contrarily, I am not happy that I have IPF, and I am mad that it continually steals the lives of other patients I have come to love.
Within these past two years, I have come to value quality over quantity. This applies to many things, including friendships and time. I have learned to focus on making quality memories, as opposed to focusing on the amount of time that I likely will not get due to IPF. I don’t like that I have to do this. I want to live my life like other carefree young adults who have time on their side to experience the many great things this world has to offer.
I have learned to balance living in the moment with focusing on the future. I want to be realistic and intentional about the goals I choose for myself in the future, and where I invest my time and energy. That said, I never wanted to change my goals and aspirations from what they were pre-IPF to what they will have to be as my lungs continue to decline.
Lastly, I believe that I have learned to cope well with this disease and what it likely means in the next few years for me and those who love me. I am entitled to feel weepy and angry that I have to live with IPF and my peers do not. Most of the time, I am able to cope well and put on a brave face for those around me.
Today, though, as my two-year diagnosis date passes by and this fight to breathe continues, I admit that I did not have the most stoic day. I chose to stay in my pajamas and tune out most of the world by binge-watching my favorite television show. Those who know me would say that sitting still and watching TV is rare for me, but it was all I could muster up the energy to do. It was also a good distraction from thinking about the last couple of years, and how much IPF has changed my life.
My two-year diagnosis date has now almost come and gone, and I admit I didn’t feel the emotions associated with it that I thought I would have. Other IPF patients: How to do you cope with your diagnosis anniversaries?
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