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I Am Not Experiencing Depression, I Just Want Time Alone
Far too often we hear that a side effect of depression is social isolation, or a desire to be alone. While this can be true for some people, it isn’t a generalized and widespread “rule” or statement that applies to everyone. Since my diagnosis of idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis (IPF) in early 2016, I have more desire to be alone than ever before.
I used to be a complete social butterfly; organizing birthdays, dinners and weekends away with friends. I also belonged to a number of sports teams, held volunteer roles and had no problem staying out until the wee hours of the morning socializing before getting up for work the next day. This is no longer a life I can keep up with, nor do I want to.
I value time on my own, and I need the quiet to recharge and rejuvenate. When I opt to spend time alone, it is not because I’m experiencing depression from my fatal lung disease, I think time on my own is healthy. I know how to be alone and I enjoy it. It may mean that I choose not to attend a social event, or spend several days by myself in my PJs just resting and relaxing, but it doesn’t mean I am depressed.
I have had friends voice their concerns that I spend “too much” time on my own. What they don’t realize is how tired I am (how tired all of us are) at the end of a day of either working, appointments, rehab exercises, etc. They don’t, and never will get the fatigue that comes from living with a lung disease and despite explaining this over and over, they still think my desire to be alone is odd. When I am by myself, I also don’t have to explain anything to anyone, or deal with people worrying about me and honestly, sometimes this is just easier.
Do you value time on your own moreso since your diagnosis of IPF/PF?
Are others in your life (carers, friends, family members) who worry that you’re experiencing depression if you want to spend more time on your own?
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